Monday, 19 November 2012

Confidence vs shyness..

Today's post is something i have wanted to share with you guys for quite a while, something i have found interesting to think about and work on so I'm hoping you are fascinated too..

Shyness- Throughout my whole life my primary school teachers always told me i was too shy and too quiet, through the first years of secondary schools at parents evening every teacher repeated the exact same things as I'd heard from my previous teachers. Although they told me my behaviour was good, i was polite and well mannered the phrase 'a little angel to teach' wasn't true-they wanted me to change, come out of my shell and have an input in class. At the time, that just wasn't me. I was the shy one who would never call out, always do as i was told even if it was a time to stand up for myself. No one ever really noticed me and i felt as if i blended in with the walls or something. Until around 2 years ago i was still that same girl until i realised that i had been hiding away from anything and everything and i thought it was time for a change. I grew up, stood up tall with my head high and as a start i would make an effort to make new friends, answer things in class (only if i knew the answer 100% though!) and just have a different view point on life. As time went by i was confident enough to just have fun in life, as that is what its about-to just enjoy it whilst it lasts. Shyness can be the factor that enables everything to knock you down no matter how hard you try and it can make you unhappy and feel left out of any situation by over thinking and feeling lonely.

Confidence- Confidence is something that can help someone make friends and do things that aren't necessarily within their comfort zones. In the past year a LOT has happened to me, my family, people living local to me etc, enough stuff to make me crawl back into that shell of mine and never speak a word again, it has been the toughest time of my life and everything seems to have took a turn for the worst, just a few examples are; a house fire (kitchen, conservatory, hallway, landing and front room damaged- ALL BECAUSE OF A CHIP PAN-Cupboard doors were burnt, the light fell down, the fridge melted and so much more (even if you are young, check your fire alarms work!))

Picture 1-Snap of the burnt kitchen, 2-mum and dad last year June, 3-R.I.P Tasha xxxx
My beautiful baby girl was put to sleep 2-3 months ago due to old age, her back legs giving up on her and losing control of her bowels, it was hard to watch her go but even harder to watch her suffer (rip Tasha!), the split of my parents this year after 27 years of marriage has been extremely hard, and so much more believe me. But minus the negatives that could, would and should have caused me to stop being the new me, i picked myself up and moved on by thinking of the positives of the year such as; my 16th birthday, prom, completing my GCSE's and getting good grades, starting sixth form, saying yes to more i wouldn't usually say yes too, keeping my head up and concentrating on making myself happy.

Prom, starting my blog, 16th birthday cake, end of school!

So what I'm trying to say (in a long essay kind of way) is that if you are like the way i used to be, think about how its going to effect you in the future with school, uni, work etc as confidence is a big thing in life that can can make you strong enough to face almost anything or knock you down and prevent you from doing so many things. You are what you make of yourself and life is also what you make it so live life to the fullest, laugh as much as you can, take risks and never EVER regret things that have once made you happy!

I hope you have all had an amazing year and none of you have had to go through what i have.

Love from Demi xxxxx


  1. I love how honest & personal your blog is- I'm now following you :)
    I used to feel exactly the same as this- it's so important to feel confident though, & things can only ever get better after a hard year!
    Feel free to stop by my blog too

  2. This was a lovely post and your positivity really shines through. Keep smiling beautiful, you've got so much ahead of you, and with your attitude you're going to go far.

    Lindsey. x

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    i'll follow you back :) x